I was pregnant with my first child when we received the news that my husband's best friend's wife was dead. Since he was working in the city his wife decided to travel to a nearby city to visit family. While visiting family she had went to a party and no one really knows if she was murdered or if she mixed alcohol with drugs but either way she was found in her sisters bathroom surrounded by empty prescription bottles.

She was in her late 20s and had two daughters. One daughter was from a early relationship and her youngest was with her husband. When she had died there were more questions then answers and no one in her family were telling him what he needed to know.

He was notified of her death only a couple of hours after she was found by the police but the police had no information on the whereabouts of his children so he called us and we offered help to find his children. We could not go with him because my due date was near, and since we had been trying for a child for so long the pregnancy was high risk but we sent him down and took care of things back home for him while he went to look for his children.

He would call us to let us know how things were progressing once he found his children. But because he was not the biological father of the first child and her biological father had shown up and took her our friend found himself in the middle of a custody battle while preparing his wife's funeral.

During one of these calls my husband was on the phone with him in our living room and I was in our kitchen cleaning and keeping busy (I think they call it the nesting time}. I could hear my husband trying to calm his friend down but I was not really paying attention to what was being said. We have a cordless phone extension just off of the kitchen. I was pouring myself a glass of milk when I heard our cordless ringing.

I was so busy concentrating on pouring my glass that I did not hesitate or think when I started to enter the area where the phone was until I became aware of the fact that my husband was still on the phone with his friend that I went cold like someone poured cold water on me. I was thinking that the phone should not be ringing especially the fact it rang about ten times before it went silent. In my random thoughts one stood out and that was the fact that his wife must not like what was going on and there was no control over the situation. As I was leaving the room to go and see my husband the phone rang again and I can tell you I was not about to pick up the phone and say hello. I did not want to hear someone saying hi back...okay so I am a big chicken. My husband was still on the phone when I sat next to him. I must have looked weird because he asked me what was wrong and I replied I would tell him later after he was off the phone.

When he got off the phone I had told my husband exactly what happened. He did not know how to respond. Normally he would turn it into a joke or something like the pregnancy affecting my hearing. What my husband's friend told him on the phone was that there were suspicions of murder surrounding her death and it was pointing to a sibling whose relationship with her could be described as being strained. About the time the phone was ringing, his friend kept mentioning that he wished that she was around so that he could ask her questions about raising their daughters, what he should do about the custody fight and her funeral but most importantly what he was doing was it alright with her.

When I had came into the room and he was still on the phone with his friend he did not know what to say to his friend other than just being there to listen if he needed a friend. My husband got off the phone reeling with the shock of for one moment putting him self in his friend place that seeing me and my big belly sitting next to him he could not know what he would do if something was to happen to me or our baby. So he really was not paying attention to what I had said until a few days later when the phone would ring and he would pick it up but no one would be on the line.

We did not mention it again until months later when his friend came over with his girls to visit and they were talking about how rough of a time it was and his friend talking about some nights he would get phone calls but no one on the phone.

It has been almost 3 months since we all compared stories about the phone ringing and our phone is now quiet but he still gets the odd phone call without no one there. I wonder if it is her telling him that she is okay or that she is happy with the way he is raising both girls. Or maybe it is something else I just don't know and find it at times aggravating that I don't have any answers.

Maybe we will know more about her death someday or if it is her trying to reach out.